They say the thing that bothers you the most in others is the thing you struggle with but don’t see in yourself.
My family have said some things that have made me aware of being critical. I never thought of it that way. I always thought i was picky or just wanted better of myself and those around me. Isn’t that where criticism starts? We judge something, anything and find it lacking.
I’m insecure enough. No wonder the idea that another is looking that closely at me or anything and everything sets me off. I KNOW that i am lacking. I really don’t want it pointed out to me UNLESS it comes with ideas on how to improve. No one wants the problems in themself pointed out. We know better than anyone our flaws. I, personally, welcome solutions.
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